7d • General discussion
He refused for days…
Xavier had been avoiding writing for weeks.
Not a meltdown — just classic PDA refusal:
“Too hard.”
“Not now.”
“Maybe later.”
And honestly? I get it.
Sitting still with a pencil isn’t made for a kid whose brain needs movement, purpose, and real-world tasks.
So instead of pushing worksheets, I changed the plan completely.
I pulled out a flat-pack box for a set of drawers and said:
“Hey, I actually need your help.
Can you label the pieces so we don’t put it together wrong?
Then we can build it.”
Instant shift.
He labelled every panel with care — because it finally mattered.
Then he grabbed the drill, lined up the screws, and helped build the drawers like he’d been doing it forever.
And the best part?
When we finished, he said:
“Can I write the labels for the drawers too?”
He wasn’t avoiding writing because he couldn’t.
He was avoiding it because it felt meaningless.
Give Xavier a real task, real tools, real purpose —
and he’ll engage every single time.
#NeurodivergentParenting #ADHDKids #PDAParenting #ADHDFamily #HomeschoolingNeurodivergentKids #HandsOnLearning #RealLifeLearning #RespectfulParenting #PDAAwareness #HomeschoolingKids #NeurodivergentEducation #GentleParenting #AutismAndADHD #NDParenting #CalmConnectionsHomeschooling
0
0 comments
He refused for days…
powered by
skool.com/calm-connections-1270
Supporting home-learning families with gentle routines, sensory understanding, emotional regulation, and calmer, more connected days.
Suggested communities
Powered by