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Partners stress !
My partner is going to do a pet sit this week (organised via well a known website). Its at the pet owners home for 3 weeks while the owners go on holiday.
Only for the last few weeks, she has heard nothing from the owners and the sit starts on Thursday. Kristy has tried contacting the owners numerous times and heard nothing, which is causing her to get stressed about the situation.
So what do I do in these sorts of situations, being a bloke? I try to fix and offer all sorts of solutions. This is the most natural thing for me to do being: man...... the hairy hunter and fixer of all...🫡
However, this does not help as then the stress gets aimed towards me.
Did I ask if she needed any solution ...nope
Did I ask if she needed help...nope
So how does this feel to her?
Disempowering..... like she's helpless and can't sort things for herself.
A tool we use when these sort of situations arise lies in one easy question:
Do you need, comfort, space or solution?
Comfort ~ a cuddle and a shoulder to lean on.
Space ~ left to resolve it on their own without interference OR space held to just be heard
Solution ~ to put your heads together to come up with something that works.
No assumptions and no taking over as man the hairy hunter. Just help 🙂 Makes things so easy!
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