Shutter: ambient.Aperture: brightness.Distance: softness.Power: intensity.
When your image is wrong, you don't need five adjustments. You need the right one.
Most photographers spiral because they change everything hoping something sticks. That's guesswork, not control.
Identify what's broken. Fix that variable. Nothing else.
The setting you reach for last is the one you don't understand yet. So which one is it and when are you going to stop avoiding it?