Boundaries aren’t punishment — they’re preservation.
Most people think boundaries are about controlling others. They aren’t. They’re about deciding the impact others are allowed to have on your energy, peace, and emotional bandwidth.
Method
Before an interaction, ask:
“How much access can I give today?”
“Where is my limit?”
“What will I do if that limit is crossed?”
Then communicate calmly, clearly, and without defending your decision.
Why it Works
Stable boundaries create internal regulation.
Your nervous system stops anticipating harm and starts trusting your leadership.
You can’t rise if everyone has access to your energy.