Jan 25 • General discussion
Hard Like a Diamond
No one needs to tell you that parenting is hard. We all know the cliches—the mountain of laundry, the sibling rivalries, the homework battle, etc. And if your life is anything like mine you can add in endless doctor appointments, rotating therapists, and searching your kids' rooms hoping to NOT find more vapes (ouch).
But hard doesn’t have to be bad. Hard can be steel, it can be a diamond, it can be the very thing that wakes us up.
But how do we stop suffering through the hard days and start waking up? It starts with recognizing that we suffer through hard days because we’re racing against an imaginary timeline. When we live by the clock (Chronos) more on that later, we think we have to accomplish a certain amount in order to feel better and we can never truly rest. We feel like we are racing against Time—and that the clock is our master, and 24 hours is never enough. We never feel like we are "finished" or able to really rest. We have this dread our babies are growing so fast that if we blink, they’ll practically be in high school and we will have missed all the preciousness while racing about like a chicken with our heads spinning around and screaming "where are my car keys.... we are LATE!" And "who let the dogs in again!!!"
You can see how this really zaps the joy right out of the room and the hard moments become insufferable. We get lost in the race against time and turn on ourselves.
Here, in A Place for Parents we stop the clock.
We come home to our centers and find that the peace we have been craving for so long is already here now. And lucky for you and me it’s what’s looking through our eyes and reading this very post right now.
The Foundation:
So, here is the first practice and it is simpler than you think. So simple you won’t think it’s going to work but it will become a bedrock foundation that can change your life. You don’t have to force yourself to be still, meditate and take deep breaths. You don't need to visualize, journal, or anything. Instead, every time you feel that frantic pull to get to the "next" thing, just name it. Say to yourself: "Oh, I’m rushing."
Don't try to stop the rushing. Don't berate yourself for anything. Don't try to change it. Just notice it. In that one second of naming it, you have already come home to the heart space, AWARENESS.
When you stop fighting the pressure and simply witness it, this is where the magic happens. AWARENESS IS YOUR SUPER POWER. It’s your sword, your katana, your nunchucks, your invisible lightsaber that you can use to slay any thought or idea that does not serve real peace. With your awareness, you can become a master of reality.
This is how the hard becomes the diamond. By using the light of your awareness and coming home to yourself you can know peace and power and transform your world.
Share with me one time today you noticed rushing or panicking. I look forward to getting to know you all better.
xoxox- Amanda
Art Note: This "Master of Reality" character was inspired by the beautiful work of Anna Laura and remixed with a bit of AI magic to help tell our story.
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Hard Like a Diamond
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Welcome to a place where we learn to drop the measuring stick and know peace NOW. We are coming home to our true center and bringing our kids with us.
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