Do You Ever Notice This?
The second something becomes “every day” or something you have to do… your body pushes back.
You tell yourself you’ve lost motivation.
But actually, it’s more likely a consistency issue.
This shows up for me a lot.
I want to build something steady.
In my case, a business.
But it could be anything, eating well, exercise, a habit you care about.
I want progress.
But consistency often feels heavy. Not supportive.
And when that happens, I start thinking there’s something wrong with me.
There isn’t.
A lot of the problem is how consistency is framed.
We’re told it means doing the same thing every single day, no matter what.
I really struggle with that.
Especially when consistency involves other people.
Because then it can start to mean:
- being available when you don’t have capacity
- showing up even when you’re exhausted
- carrying others emotionally
- having no clear end point
It can feel binding.
Like saying “I run every day,” even when you wake up tired or run down.
So you push past your limits because that’s now “who you are”.
Or being the rock for everyone else, all the time.
At some point, the body says no.
For me, when something feels endless, my motivation drops fast.
I need structure. I need an end.
When my body hears forever instead of contained, I get stuck.
And this shows up physically.
Before starting, I feel resistance.
A heaviness.
A real “I don’t want to” in my body.
Things that once felt exciting can turn into apathy.
Or irritation.Or agitation.
There’s often an urge to pull away or stop altogether.
This isn’t laziness.
It’s self-protection.
So here’s what I’m experimenting with instead.
Consistency doesn’t have to mean endless.
You can decide:
“I’ll do this for 7 days.”
Or 30 days.
And then reassess.
Not “I’m doing this forever”.
I noticed this recently in a challenge I was doing.
It had a clear time frame… until it didn’t.
Suddenly it felt like something I’d be doing forever, and my whole system pushed back.
So now I make things finite, contained, and complete.
I also shrink things right down.
One task.
One window of time.
One thing I’m doing today.
Because when everything feels open-ended — work, house stuff, life — my brain gets overwhelmed and shuts down.
When there’s an end, my nervous system relaxes.
I do the same with work.
Instead of “I’ve got 40 things to do”, it becomes:
“Today, I’m just doing this.”
And when I stop, I stop.
I rest without guilt.
Another big piece is emotional responsibility.
Consistency can quietly turn into feeling responsible for everyone else, their needs, their feelings, their progress.
Sometimes consistency needs to mean:
“I take responsibility for myself today.”
Not being endlessly available.
And I choose the parts I enjoy.
If something feels hard, I start with the bits that feel lighter.
That still counts.
I also listen to my body.
Some days, doing the bare minimum is consistency.
So here’s something to reflect on:
What does consistency feel like in your body?
Does it feel supportive…or demanding?
When it starts to feel like obligation, that’s usually when it breaks down.
What would make it feel safer to show up?
Smaller? Shorter? More contained?
You don’t need to force consistency.
You might just need a kinder definition of it.
Consistency can look different for everyone:
three times a week,
ten minutes a day,
or just returning without punishment.
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Do You Ever Notice This?
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