I really believe that sharing our stories — in confidence and in a safe space — can help each of us. Over the last 18 years, I’ve only told a handful of people my stories about my children, mostly out of fear of judgment. But I’ve learned that when we open up, we give others the courage to do the same, and that’s where healing and growth happen Would anyone be willing to listen? With no judgment. It’s been a ride

The snow was barely there. Grass peeking through. Elijah and I scraped together every handful we could find, packed crooked snowballs, and turned almost nothing into almost an hour of play. Wet gloves. Red noses. Laughter in the cold. Simple moment. Big memory. This is how a bond gets built. Guys, when was the last time you did this with your kid? What winter memories stick with you from your own childhood snow days? Today’s challenge - Give your kid ten minutes outside if you have any snow at all. Make it a snowball toss, a target on the fence, or a silly “no hands” roll. - If there is no snow where you are, pick another simple throw-and-chase game. Same energy, same payoff. - Come back and share: When was your last snowball fight, what is one snow memory from when you were a kid, and what did you notice about your kid today? Show up. Make it fun. Stack these little moments.

I used to believe that as a man on my own, I had to do everything. And that belief was costing me the one life I have. I can still picture those late nights, grinding away at the office. I was crushing my goals, and my bank account looked solid. I'd get home, toss my keys in the bowl, and the clink would just echo in the dark apartment. I was the one driving the mission, paying the bills, planning the future, and holding myself accountable. There was no one else to pick up the slack. I had optimized everything... except the man in the mirror. I was building this financial empire but my physical temple was crumbling. I was so focused on building a Vault for my future, I forgot to build a life for my present. That's a lonely, hollow feeling. I learned that "doing it all" doesn't mean you have to sacrifice yourself in the process. The real work isn't just building the Vault (your finances). It's building the Temple (your body) and the Chalice (your inner world) at the same time. When you're on your own, it's easy to feel like you're the only one in the fight. But you're not. This brotherhood is filled with men who are on that same path, forging their own destiny. We're all learning to build ourselves, for ourselves, right alongside you. 1. Where are you building your Vault (finances/career) at the expense of your Temple (health) or Chalice (mind)? 2. What is one small, non-negotiable action you will take for yourself this week, not for your goals, but for the man you are today? Your action today: Stop being just the architect for "future you." Look at your calendar. Block out 30 minutes this week for your Temple (a high-intensity workout) or your Chalice (strategic journaling). Treat it like the most important meeting you have. Watch the full talk on this: https://youtu.be/rKi90srV__0

I thought I was being a good man, helping a brother out. But my son had to use a simple 'feelings card' to show me I wasn't being a present dad. I was deep in a call, focused on helping another dad navigate his struggles. My son, Elijah, came up and touched my arm. That's our sign. I waved him off. "I'm busy," I said. He gave me a little space, but came back a minute later. This time, he didn't say a word. He just held up one of our feelings cards. It said 'Mad' and 'Angry.' It hit me right in the gut. I realized I was so focused on 'doing' that I was failing at 'being'. I was dismissing my own son. I asked the guy I was talking to if we could speak later. I got down on my son's level and I apologized. I told him he was right to be frustrated and that my commitment is to him when we're together. I learned that these tools, these 'feelings cards' or a 'Feelings Wheel,' aren't just for kids. They are for us. They give our children a language to tell us what's really going on. They turn a tantrum into "I feel ignored," or "I'm frustrated." They give us a map to their world. It's our job to give them that map. It's how we build a home where feelings are tools, not weapons. And it's why we're in this brotherhood—to practice being the men who are present, who listen, and who aren't afraid to apologize. Your action today: Find a 'Feelings Wheel' online. (Just search for it). Spend 5 minutes looking at it with your child. Ask them to point to one they feel today. Just listen. Watch the full talk on this: [YouTube Link] Reflection Questions: 1. Where in your life are you 'too busy' for the people who matter most? 2. What's one 'big feeling' (like anger or sadness) that you or your kids have trouble finding the right words for?

I held my son on his first Halloween, and in that moment, I wasn't just a dad in a costume. I was a link in a chain. I can still picture it. He was tiny, and we dressed up as Mufasa and baby Simba. We have this high rock at our family place, and I stood there and held him up, just like in the movie. It felt bigger than just a costume. I was celebrating him, our bloodline, our legacy. That tradition never stopped. As he got older, we were Deadpool and Wolverine. We'd have these epic, fake-wolverine-claw fights all over the house. To this day, we'll still randomly bust out the moves on each other. It's our thing. I realized my son sees me, a grown man, being goofy, using my imagination, and not being "too cool" to play. He's pointed out that I'm often the only adult dressed up, and he sees it as special. He sees that, and he knows he has permission to find joy and play, no matter how old he gets. I think that's a lot of what we're doing here as a brotherhood. We're practicing being the men we choose to be. For me, that means being a man, and a father, who is 100% present and never "too cool" to connect. 1. When was the last time you really played all out with your kids, oblivious to the rest of the world, just you and them in the moment? 2. What's one way you can show your family your "playful" side this week? Your action today: Don't just ask your kids about their day. Get on the floor and build the Legos. Pick up the controller. Or start the play-fight. Be 100% in it with them, even for just 10 minutes.