BOUNDARY OF THE DAY “I disengage when communication becomes hostile.” Let’s talk about how hard this actually is. Because many of you were trained — by relationships, by trauma, by survival — to stay and endure instead of step away and protect yourselves. You learned: • to explain longer • to try harder • to keep the peace • to prove your side • to absorb the explosion So when someone becomes hostile, your body doesn’t think “boundary.” It thinks: If I don’t fix this, something bad will happen. But here’s the truth: You are not responsible for regulating someone else’s emotions. Hostility is not communication. It’s emotional flooding .And nobody thinks clearly while flooded — including you. Disengaging is not failure, it’s emotional maturity. It means: ✨ You know when a conversation has crossed from productive to painful ✨ You trust yourself enough to step back ✨ You no longer sacrifice your peace to keep someone else comfortable Leaving a hostile exchange doesn’t make you weak, it makes you regulated. It makes you safer. It makes you strong. You’re allowed to say: “I’ll return to this when it’s respectful.” And then… actually pause. Let them sit with their tone. Let them feel the consequences of access. You don’t have to scream to be powerful, you just have to stop staying where you’re being emotionally harmed. 💭 DISCUSSION PROMPT: What does your body usually do when a conversation turns hostile — fight, freeze, fawn, or flee? And what’s one small way you could support yourself earlier next time? You’re not broken for struggling with this, you’re human. And you’re learning. You’re safe here.

Today’s Text My Ex: “I’m not continuing this conversation if it becomes hostile.” Why this works: This message doesn’t invite debate. It doesn’t escalate it, doesn’t defend, justify, or explain. It simply states the condition for access to you. You’re not threatening. You’re not punishing. You're protecting your peace and your nervous system. Hostility doesn’t earn more access. It earns less. This boundary tells your ex: “You don’t get to speak to me however you want just because we share a child.” Use this when: • Messages become disrespectful • You’re being blamed or baited • You feel your body go into fight/flight • The conversation shifts from problem-solving to power struggle Reminder: You don’t need to wait until you’re at your breaking point.Boundaries are most powerful before you explode. 💬 DISCUSSION PROMPT: What’s the hardest conversation for you to walk away from — and why?

🧡 Boundary of the Day: 💞Keeping Kids Out of the Middle💕 Today’s boundary is a simple shift that makes a massive difference in your co-parenting dynamic: “I will not engage in conversations that happen through the kids. All communication about parenting will be adult-to-adult only.” WHY: Because when messages pass through your child, they carry emotions, stress, and responsibilities that don’t belong to them. This boundary protects their peace and keeps communication clearer and calmer between households. 🌿 What This Looks Like in Real Life: No “Tell your mom…” No “Ask your dad if…” No putting your child in the role of messenger or negotiator You send the message directly, kindly, and clearly. You don’t have to carry the emotional weight of two households. Set the boundary. Protect your child. Lead with clarity. A small shift creates a huge emotional difference.

✨ Boundary of the Day ✨ Today’s boundary is all about protecting your peace and reinforcing healthy communication patterns: “I do not respond to messages that are disrespectful, accusatory, or written in high emotion. I will reply when communication is calm, clear, and focused on the kids.” This boundary isn’t about control — it’s about refusing to participate in chaotic communication that drains you and destabilizes the co-parenting dynamic. When you wait for a calmer moment to respond, you model emotional regulation, create consistency, and send a clear message about what type of communication you’ll participate in. Engagement Question: What’s one communication boundary you set (or WANT to set) that made a difference in your co-parenting? Share it below so others can learn from your experience.

When it comes to co-parenting, few topics trigger bigger emotions than introducing a new partner. It can feel personal, it can feel vulnerable, and it can expose old wounds. But it doesn’t have to become a battleground. With a little planning, you can turn this into a moment that strengthens your co-parenting foundation instead of shaking it. Here are 3 options to keep your peace when informing your ex partner that you are seeing someone new: Option 1 – Collaborative & Warm “Hey, I wanted to give you a quick heads-up that I’m seeing someone, and things have been going well. Before there’s any introduction to the kids, I wanted to touch base with you so we can make sure it’s handled in a way that feels consistent and comfortable for them. I don’t need personal info or to share more than what’s relevant — just hoping we can keep things predictable for the kids. Let me know if you’re open to chatting about pacing and language so we can be on the same page.” Option 2 – Clear & Boundaried “I wanted to let you know that I’m planning a future introduction between the kids and someone I’m dating. Nothing is happening right away. When it does, I’d like us to agree on a simple plan that keeps things calm and predictable for the kids. I’m not asking for permission — just making sure we communicate so the kids feel supported.” Option 3 – If the relationship with the ex is high-conflict “I’m giving you advance notice that I am in a relationship. At some point, there will be an introduction to the kids. I will keep you informed about timing so their routine stays consistent. I’m not looking to discuss personal details — only relevant information that helps the children feel secure. I’ll let you know before any introduction happens.” If you happen to be on the receiving end of this and aren't sure how to respond, here are 3 respectful, non-confrontational responses to use when your Ex informs you about a new partner: 1.Calm, Neutral, and Respectful “Thanks for letting me know. I appreciate the heads-up. If/when the kids are going to meet them, just keep me posted so I can help keep things consistent on my end.”