💖 Loving Yourself is a Job: Your Most Important Task
Hello there. It's a deep pleasure to share this idea with you. Sometimes, the simplest shifts in perspective can unlock a whole new kind of peace. This is based on a talk I heard online and gives a unique perspective. The Trauma-Informed Witness Let's be honest, the concept of self-love can feel somewhat complicated. We see the inspirational quotes, but when anxiety flares or the inner critic pipes up, you just don't like the person staring back. It’s a myth that you have to like every little thing about yourself to practice self-love. You don't. That feeling of dislike is just a temporary state. Think about it this way: Loving yourself is a job. It's a fundamental, non-negotiable responsibility, not a fluttery feeling that shows up when you’re having a good day. But this job has a powerful, healing component: you are also the Trauma-Informed Witness for your human. The Dual Role: Caretaker and Witness Imagine that on the day you were born, you were handed a tiny, fragile human to look after—your person. This human is you. You are the custodian of your own human. This shift creates a little healthy distance. When you look at it as a job, you stop getting so tangled up in the drama and the self-judgment. You're no longer the subject lost in emotion; you're the objective, compassionate caretaker. Every morning, your job description kicks in. You ask yourself the practical questions: - What is truly important for my person today? (Nourishment? Movement? Rest?) - What do they need right now that will contribute to their well-being? But here is where we blend in the deeper wisdom, recognising that your person is likely carrying old wounds (trauma responses). You have a higher duty: to be the Non-Judgmental Witness for their internal experience. The Non-Dual Strategy: Unconditional Presence Your human’s difficult emotions (shame, anxiety, a sudden urge to self-sabotage) are often protective reflexes from an injured nervous system. They aren't personal failings.