30 days or 90 days the time frame is not important; wether you relapsed after 90 days or after three days what matters is that each time you are becoming stronger and assuring that the next strike you won’t make the same mistakes so you don’t fall. Im sure we can all make it to 90 days if we are strong enough mentally but if your heart is still set on your disordered desire and you have not healed no matter how long you retain you will once more fall short. What matters is the mindset of getting out of this poison and not simply aiming to retain for 30 days leaving your subconscious open to the idea of relapsing on day 31st. Instead take it day by day and focus on completing each day with stronger awareness and make sure you are journaling your journey. If you fall don’t be so hard on yourself but yet journal a strategy on how not to commit the same faults again that led to your relapse. My advice forget about the length of retention and align your priorities and heal your heart from all of that perversion. I relapsed on the 5th of December and out of impulse I relapsed continuously eventually I tried to distract myself with drinking alcohol which I haven’t been drinking for over a month or two or smoking marijuana for way longer as well. I was weak and you must be strong there are many people depending on you and not just your loved ones your friends who also struggle with their poison. Be an inspiration don’t be another stepping stone and pray.

About 2 months ago I’ve completed 90 days and October was the month I relapsed . Guilt crept in and I didn’t forgive myself for a week and a couple of days. I’ll get back up a couple days then I’ll fall once again. It was only towards the last days of October where I was committed. I found although October was a dog fight, what got me further in retention was fleeing from lust and not resisting it. When I resisted my peace was gone, when I fled I had clarity of mind. This is why I completed No Nut November. Last night however I got a small fever and sore throat with a headache. I didn’t want to keep myself busy and so temptation crept in since I was sick in bed. I went through resistance. In the end I chose not to relapse. I think the best way to go about this is to give up phone use as much as possible, avoid social media because temptation can creep in. When out, like the Gym, train yourself not only to look away but to dominate your thoughts.

The beauty of this community is that we are from different places in the world - but on the same mission. What I want to know: (Answer in this format) 1) Your name - 2) Where you are from - 3) Your interests/hobbies - 4) Why you started seed retention - 5) What you are looking to learn/discuss with me and the other men in this brotherhood - I'll go first. My name is Austin, and I'm grateful to host this community for you guys. I am from the United States, and I currently live in New York but will be moving soon. My interests/hobbies are piano, martial arts, philosophy, and just recently - content creation. Why I started seed retention - I didn't actually know what seed retention was at the time I started it. I had just went through a bad break up and was tired of using porn to cope with the heartbreak. After a bad relapse - I told myself that time would be my last and I stuck to that promise. That "streak" lasted 8 months until something crazy happened...(we'll save that for story time) I am most looking forward to hearing your stories and your personal goals with retention. There is so much to learn on this journey and my goal is to save you the trouble of the many mistakes I made, and show you the map to the treasure inside you. Not as a life coach or spiritual guru, but simply a man who has walked the path and can point you in the right direction. Now I want to hear from you - and so do the guys in this community. Be sure to list your response to all 5 points. Looking forward to speaking with you gentlemen🫡