This might not sound popular… And some might say it’s a little harsh… But the reality is, when you find it hard to let go of something that happened in the past, it’s usually because you’re getting something out of it in the present. This is especially true in relationships. Holding on to a “victim story” can give you attention, compassion, sympathy, even entitlement or self-righteousness. And while those things may feel comforting, they also keep you from the love and joy you really want. The truth is, you can’t step fully into freedom and lasting connection while still clinging to the old story. At some point, you have to decide what matters more… Do you want to keep the comfort of the familiar? Or do you want to open yourself to the happiness waiting on the other side? When you let go, you stop surviving your story and start living your life. So let me ask you, what story might you be ready to release?

What’s your challenge? For me it’s trusting that letting someone in is not going to shake the foundations of my inner peace,,, I’m a busy person so it’s easy to not make room to let someone in… it’s easier… anyone relate? Any other challenges? ❤️

Love means many things to different people. But what needs to be present in a relationship for you to truly be in love? For me it is Respect, loyalty, trust, intimacy, enjoying being in each others company and laughter

I’m yet to meet any couple that at some stage don’t begin to fight. It’s almost part of the course. I’d almost say that it’s healthy sometimes. But only if you do the this after… Because what you do after is the key to everything! So tell me… after it’s over, do you talk about what happened? Do you talk about where the communication broke down? Do you take responsibility for what happened? Do you own it? Do you try to understand the impact that your words or actions had on your partner? And are you able to actually repair? Because we all make mistakes in our relationships; we all mess up. It’s how you deal with them that matters. Repairing well rebuilds trust, reduces the chance of the same fight repeating, and brings you closer, not farther apart.

Hi! I’m Betty Ann (AKA Betty Boop). I’m a 76 going on 18 retired widow living in Peoria Arizona. I just joined this community and I thought I would introduce myself.