As you begin the week. What kind of lens do you see the week ahead with and what kind of language do you use (with yourself and others) regarding what's ahead? I'll start.

Anybody here have awareness that repeat and resurface? As if saying "hello, I'm over here". Sometimes when I have repetitive realizations, it's easy for me to get frustrated. I notice myself lose momentum due to discouragement and the feeling/sense of "dangit....again". One thing that keeps coming up for me are administrative tasks & to-do's that don't seem to be getting completed or keep getting pushed aside. Let me know if this is something you can relate to. And what it is for you that keeps resurfacing for you.

Looking back at the last week, take account of how things flowed for you. What happened, what didn't, and what do you desire to create next week? If you have any awareness', intentions, or general reflections drop em in the comments along with at least one GIF to represent last week and one GIF to represent your desires for next week. I'll start.

I had a lightbulb moment today. In ManOS it talks about violence and 7 attributes of violence and I don't really have what I'd consider violence in my life and skimmed over that section. But this morning "dialoguing" with chatGPT about some feelings and anxiety I'm feeling, it reframed violence. Deficit, pain and loss are attributes of violence that were identified with my situation: financial stresses, that's a "deficit". Feeling anxious or nervous about an upcoming meeting with an employee could be labeled "pain" and feeling like my business should be doing better and it isn't where I expected it to be, is a "loss". These are all types of violence when violence is defined as something that keeps me from being whole. Violence is such a strong word and I avoid violence in most day-to-day. But when it's framed around anything that separates, fractures, or prevents wholeness then it gives new perspective. @Tah Whitty is this the right pattern? when I'm not feeling whole and I'm trying to become aware I can name the feeling and as I try to understand the root I can go thru the 7 attributes and try to understand more of the cause? So take finances. I'm anxious. I identify finances as a cause. I can identify the trigger is a reault of what I have and what is needed (deficit) and now I can ask, is that within my control? Can I affect change? Is it mine to own? And start to take action. In the case of the employee meeting, I'm stressed and the weight of potential outcomes is essentially painful. But the trigger is because of my fussing at outcomes that in many cases I have no control over (how he reacts and his opinion if me). So I can focus on what I can control. I can only do my best and I have to be ok with that....tell me if in on the right track. @Jared Johnson @Corbin Sellers

YOU ARE PRECIOUS. Before your start to deny it and scroll away. Just take 3 minutes and fucking read this please. Last Friday I got news that a friend of 30 plus years passed as a result of his own hand. I won’t get into the grim details. Last Saturday morning I got news that another friend of 25 plus years passed from complications of something that could have been managed by diet and movement. (And I know it is always deeper than that). He struggled for a long time with his relationship to food. Could that be the results of his own hand… consciously or unconsciously? Maybe. Regardless, a man in stuggle is a man in struggle. Struggle can always use support. Last Saturday afternoon I got news that another friend in his 30s. Passed as a result of a self inflicted gun wound. They were: All men. All hurting. 3 men I know. All talented. All brilliant. All loaded with potential. All beautiful souls. All have people who are wondering “what the fuck? How could this happen?” I am supporting a LOT of people. It doesn’t matter. I will make time. I still make space when people need deep help, in real time. Walking people off of ledges… Literally and figuratively. 18 months ago one of my closest friends ended his life. He knew I could support him. Yet he didn’t want to “bother” me. If you are worried about being a bother… that’s fine. Be a bother. And ask someone for help anyway. Be embarassed and ask for help anyway. ASK FOR FUCKING HELP. You are precious. Yes YOU, a man. You are precious. It is not a weaknes. You are precious. Not just to your mother. YOU ARE PRECIOUS period. You are important. Like the ring to Golum precious. Seeiously. If you are a man who is in distress right now…. Fucking bother someone. Please. Be honest and tell them all the depths. If you are a man who knows a man who you think is in distress… -Givng all his shit away -Speaking despair languge -Giving up -Isolating -Binge eating -Not eating at all Please… ask questions… even if you think you are “bothering them”, ask questions.