I know you have had a relationship in the past where you weren't treated the way you should have been. Maybe you were disrespected or weren't heard and seen. How did your ex (or someone you dated) treat you? Are you angry? Resentful? Or just glad that they aren't around anymore? Did you know that the anger can cause physical stress in your body AND unconsciously prevent you from finding a better relationship in the future? I'm serious about this. Your unconscious always is looking to protect you, and one way it does that is by looking to the past to see how you should react now. And, when you react from hurt and defensiveness, you end up missing out on great relationships. Because you can be closed, inattentive, guarded, suspicious- perhaps when it's unnecessary. Sometimes even hurting other people in your own method of protection. Watch this video and tap along to release your anger. Because YOU deserve to let it go.

Dating is a struggle when we are looking for someone so we don't have to be alone. Isn't that true? We end up in less-than-ideal relationships, or wasting time with those that do not make our lives better. To help people who are single, and who aren't sure if they want to be alone or not, this masterclass will take you through powerful exercises to empower you to find joy being alone. When you are happy being alone, it is easier to wait for the ideal relationship, to hold your boundaries, and to find joy and peace in the everyday. And... When you learn to love yourself, it doesn't matter who else loves you. I held this class back in January of 2024 to support those who weren't sure if they wanted to be alone, but also were totally sick of the dating scene. ( PS- it was no surprise to me that mostly men joined, as they seem to be getting the shittiest end of dating these days.) Enjoy. LMK your feedback on it.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DD0XFJtSlcy/?igsh=ZjByN2E3a3k3bjky Some wonder why I'm so passionate about helping people feel loved, connected, and part of Community. Why I get so worked up when people are judgmental of each other. Not that everything can be happiness and rainbows and that everyone needs to love everyone else, but we need to treat each other with respect! Heck, I wrote a whole book about it. I also wrote a whole book about how Healthy consensual Touch is so important in our culture. For kids and adults alike. Watch this real and tell me what you think about it! Where do you resonate and where do you resist?

https://www.tiktok.com/@afraidofnowoman/video/7447943632109260074 This video caught my attention. It's true that we often think we know what we want, and don't define what that looks like. What does a strong, supportive man look like for you? What does a feminine woman look like? Where do the divine feminine and masculine energies ebb and flow, and where do we lock ourselves (and others) into judgements and stereotypes based upon words alone? When I got into my current relationship I struggled because I had been living in masculine energy for so long. Doing it ALL myself. Work, fixing the house, roofing, cooking, cleaning, and so on. Yes, I can do it all, but DO I WANT TO? OR can I ALLOW a man to support me? To do for me in a way that frees up my energy and time to drop into softness and into my power in a different way that FEELS GOOD? There's no right or wrong here, but I do want to start the conversation. Dating is about evaluating other people to find your next best partner. Do you even know what you want enough to recognize it when it is in front of you? Or is there a reaction from fear, past hurts, or even excitement and a desire to be connected that distorts the mechanism of dating? Let me know below!

I thought about putting this first short into the Funny section. And then I thought more deeply about the implications of looks and relationships. Now, This thread could get very superficial and blaming very fast, so let's keep it introspective and open. How many of us choose who to date on physical looks FIRST, rather than who they are and the personality they portray? Have you ever decided to put someone in the "not dating material" category because of their looks- even if they were amazing, upstanding beings? Many great people get passed over while attempting to date because they don't fit into the "traditional model" of what attractive is portrayed as in our culture. The first short pokes fun at "hot" women and how they don't have to do anything. The second is about the complexities of comparison of our culture, from the perspective of a well-spoken attractive woman. I'm curious- how do you prioritize someone's looks versus the soul traits they have as a person? How has that impacted your dating and/or relationship life?