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Which platform do you spend most time on? After voting, please comment how you split your time amongst platforms. E.g. 50% YouTube, 20% TikTok, 20% Books, 10% Podcasts

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Owen Sheasby
Andrew Kirby
Alan Paul
Ken Hawkins
Acacia Hernandez
New comment 2h ago
  • 4 likes • 20d

    For myself, the ratios change between these two: A. YouTube: 40% TikTok/Shorts: 30% Instagram: 20% Books: 5% Podcasts: 5% B. YouTube: 40% TikTok/Shorts: 25% Books: 15% Podcasts: 10% Communities: 10% 'A' is when I'm in poor health, and since I have a number of health conditions goin on, I find myself less productive with my time (~1 week/month). I have Covid right now, so I've been indulging. Ughh. 'B' is what it's been the past 1.5 months - until about a week ago. I know TikTok gets a lot of hate (understandably so), but it really does depend on the content you engage with. I, personally, only engage with musicians/artists I choose to follow, or the people who follow me, because I post my singing vids on there. I NEVER scroll through my "For You Page" because I know it's easy to get sucked in. And I actually probably spend most of my time on my own page, as self-centered as that sounds - I'm trying to see which videos do best, or what kind of people like it, or just how I can improve it. I think I just went on a rant about my TikTok-use because I can already feel the judgment 😂 I'll be making my first painting/psychology concept video tonight since I can't go anywhere haha! It'll be a TikTok/short, though (so, only a few minutes).

  • 2 likes • 20d

    @Andrew Kirby Oh, yikes. It's sanfranessa, but I'm making a separate account for the art/psych vids. My first video will be on conformity. I started making it today but severely underestimated the time needed. Also didn't realize how shit I am at editing!

Changing who you Subscribe to is a very high leverage decision. It takes 2 minutes, and can benefit you for years to come. After all... You Become who you Consume. --- So, in order for us all to improve our information diet, let's share who we subscribe to on YouTube. Find out by clicking here. Or on the left side of YouTube on browser. Or at the bottom of YouTube mobile. Comment below. I'll go first.

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Andrew Kirby
Paul Masters
Owen Sheasby
Gavin Wiener
Cleymand Mgiba
New comment 17h ago
  • 1 like • 15d

    @Tamás Tukszár I love Jordan Peterson! I read one of his books and am currently reading another one, but, even as someone whose first language is English, he can be hard to follow sometimes.

I have a birthday coming up and I’m wondering what to get. What are the items/ experiences that have brought you the highest ROI? Can be anything.

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Tamás Tukszár
Fedor Shatukho
Jeff Harrison
Travis Moore
Owen Sheasby
New comment 8d ago
  • 4 likes • 16d

    1. Good earbuds! I'm almost always listening to music, so it's super important for me to have good quality earbuds. There are 2 brands I have that I am obsessed with: 1) Jabra (75T Elite, $150-$200) 2) Veatool (T98, $30-$35). 2. Electric kettle! I drink a lot of tea lol 3. Bluetooth speaker! I love my Sony one. It's been dropped, banged up, I accidentally turned the water on when it was sitting in the sink, and it's still flawless. I even tripped over the cord while it was charging, ripped a piece out of the charging port, and it still charges 😂 Also, Happy Early Birthday!!

  • 1 like • 14d

    @Owen Sheasby Hahahahaha yeah, but I was able to hear everyone PERFECTLY with my earbuds 🤣

So, this took way longer than expected/hoped for. It's less than 3 minutes long(!!) but has 68 video clips in it. I made it short on purpose because my target audience is individuals with short(er) attention spans. I spent days changing the voiceover. So much to say, so little time. I ended up hating both the painting & the voiceover bit (not unusual pour moi). Realized I could write a more thorough piece on conformity and post it elsewhere, so that took some of the pressure off for it to be super detailed and perfect. Some things I should've done differently: - Music. This song isn't the most fitting, but I had already DM'd the artist for permission to use their full song, and they said I could. They asked for the video link once it was posted, so I felt kind of obligated to use it lol - Use a better mic - Speak slower/clearer - Other stuff that I can't remember and, let's be honest, won't remember because I don't wanna watch my video again (kinda kidding) Here it is: https://www.tiktok.com/@anessaryce/video/7147410003081710890?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7138599690130097710 ew yikes, sorry.

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Owen Sheasby
Corey Bennett Boardman
Hannah Weaver
Siebren de Vos
Anessa Ryce
New comment 9d ago
  • 2 likes • 9d

    @Hannah Weaver Thank you so much, Hannah!! That's really thoughtful of you to say. You're right, I did mention in my last post that this would be my first video like this! Okay, it's official: I'll write a Medium article on conformity! Thanks for the encouragement 🤗 Also, you should totally paint/draw something!! As much as I didn't really like the painting itself, the process is always so relaxing and therapeutic :)

  • 3 likes • 9d

    @Siebren de Vos Thanks!! Hahah that's so funny! It's interesting, the contrast between our narratives on the same concept. I like it! Thanks for sharing your video :)

What is the first thing you are going to do when you reach financial freedom?

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Fedor Shatukho
Juan Carlos Recalde
Griffin A. Hamilton
Owen Sheasby
Jeff Harrison
New comment 9d ago
  • 1 like • 16d

    Get my DashPass back lol

  • 2 likes • 16d

    @Corey Bennett Boardman Hahahaha! Yeah, that might actually be first priority😂

I wrote an article consisting of 1000 quotes, the best ones I could find. Yeah, I went through a lot of quotes for this one and have no life https://medium.com/@jonathanmichaelson/1000-deliberately-chosen-audacious-quotes-that-will-make-you-stand-taller-552c009eab2

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Condredge Dole
Corey Bennett Boardman
Travis Bloom
Jonathan Michaelson
Christina Westergaard Larsen
New comment 14d ago
  • 1 like • 18d

    This is amazing! I looove quotes! I have a book called "Positive Quotes For Every Day" - but it only has 365.. So, I think you win. Thanks for sharing :) Also, quote 1. of your article is similar to my favorite quote of all time: "Life, if well lived, is long enough." :')

I'm putting everything together for my first painting video (inspired by the concept of Conformity), and I'm trying to decide if putting text on the screen is enough. Do you think it's important to have my actual voice describing the concept and narrating what I'm doing? I just.. I don't like my speaking voice that much, and especially not right now when I'm all nasally and gross cause I have Covid lol If it's important to have my voice, I'll just record video because I can't let my voice face the world alone. It's real bad. Plus, I don't have a sick accent like many of you do. I literally have a sick accent, omg. I just realized what I said after I wrote it hahaha okay, thanks for any/all input :)

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Hannah Weaver
Anessa Ryce
Allan Rousselle
Jamie Barclay
Tamás Tukszár
New comment 15d ago
  • 1 like • 16d

    @Hannah Weaver Oh, you're INFP, too!? I feel like there's definitely a link there. I understand what you mean by that - it feeling a bit performative and inauthentic; but I watched some of your videos and, regardless of whether they're performative or not, they're packed with information! You're great at summarizing information without being overly wordy, and you give great analogies. Plus, I love your accent!! You're so easy to listen to! I read your article, and wow!! You write so well! I hadn't heard of an information diet (prior to hearing about it from you), but it's such an interesting way of thinking about it. Thanks for sharing it! If I make a profile/account/?? on there, I'll definitely be following you. I'd love to read more from you. I also don't think I've heard of Medium before - but I've been looking for a place to share some of my written pieces. Most of the things I write are just contemplative analyses of life/experiences, though. Not synthesizing really. I haven't posted any of my work... yet! Currently, I only post singing on TikTok haha. But I'll be posting my art/psych video soon, and I'll link it here when I do :) I'm sure I'm overthinking it (because I do, every single time I paint anything), but I started hating the painting, so I stopped. I'll finish it today...HAHA I say, once again. *sigh*

  • 1 like • 15d

    @Hannah Weaver Hahaha well, if you're a sales rep, you're a successful one! I just made an account! I haven't signed up for a membership yet, so if you have a link I can sign up through, I'd love to do that :) Thank you for saying that! I still cringe at the thought every now and then. My sister started listening to my singing videos on front of me the other day, and I almost disintegrated 🤣 And thank you for the reminder to be kind to myself - I'll definitely work on it today as I'm listening to my voice play back to me 😖. But the video WILL actually be finished by today because I finished the painting last night, so I just have to put it all together. Haha! I move so many deadlines, it's just ridiculous and embarrassing.

I just got off of a podcast recording with @Jamie Barclay We planned to do 1 hour but ran over by 45mins. I really enjoyed it and thought it was a great conversation. Then I realised I hadn’t recorded his audio. 🤦‍♂️🫠 I have mixed feelings. Happy with how it went but kind of annoyed. A reminder that it will never be a perfect situation and to keep pushing regardless.

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Jamie Barclay
Tatana Siweya
Cotton Sam
Anessa Ryce
Owen Sheasby
New comment 18d ago
  • 0 likes • 18d

    @Owen Sheasby , really sorry to hear that 🙁... but hahah, @Tatana Siweya, I'll do a voice-over for it 😂

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    @Owen Sheasby I mean... I actually would haha if I can get my mic working 😂

Just released my latest video and it's one of my favourite's so far. I really tried to lean into "Edu-tainment" as Ed from Film Booth talks about, and I also tried to simultaneously hit the search algorithm as well as the general YouTube algorithm. I'm pretty happy with how it turned out, I'll actually be surprised if it doesn't at least perform above average for me, as I feel like I've applied a lot of good lessons for this video. Would greatly appreciate some feedback if you have the time :)

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Benedek Santa
Jamie Barclay
Jeff Harrison
Corey Bennett Boardman
Alan Paul
New comment 22d ago
  • 3 likes • 25d

    I'll also be surprised if it doesn't perform above average (for you & in general). I feel like you nailed the emotional aspect by including flashback-footage paired with emotive music (Keane was a great choice!). You also did an incredible job of explaining the concepts. It wasn't wordy or confusing, but it also wasn't simplified to the point of being boring and/or amateur. Also, the last scene made me really sad. But like.. In a good way. So, excellent job on the video :)

when to listen to your intuition / gut feeling? when to your ratio mind? any best practices / frameworks you'd recommend trying?

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Anessa Ryce
Nav Warrior
Nicolai Waldhauser
Gabriela Toderean
Shivam Jha
New comment 23d ago
  • 2 likes • Aug 27

    I don't think it's one or the other - I think they work in tandem. I think we strive to act and think rationally, and intuition acts as a guard rail. So, when something feels "off," it's good to listen. This doesn't always mean something is wrong. In fact, there are countless variables that affect us at a subconscious level... which is part of the reason many of us act irrationally - because of the invisible, or hidden, variables. Dan Ariely's book Predictably Irrational changed my entire perspective of the world, as well as myself. But when something doesn't sit right with you, it's often (not always) because something is off. And it could be that something needs to change internally, or it could be that something you're doing, or not doing, needs to change. It could be the result of an incongruence - whether it's a belief and an action, or two actions, or two beliefs (cognitive dissonance). It could be many things. Which is why when I get that gut feeling, that something's not right, I have to be really honest with myself. I'd recommend writing, or intentionally thinking, in a very vulnerable fashion. Many times, we know things but are afraid to admit we know because of the obligations that often arise as a result of acknowledging it (this isn't always the case; but it has often been the case, in my own life). But I think intuition is incredibly powerful, and it should be listened to. Where you go from there is a personal journey, and I wish you the best of luck :)

Ay guys! I've been thinking about this choice of going to college vs. trying to "fast track" my way into the knowledge based economy as a digital nomad/creator/software developer for a while now. I'd love to share some quick thoughts for anyone interested - and if anyone's got any opinions/feedback after, I'd be thrilled to hear em! (..and sorry if it gets a lil long.) I drafted a whole piece for my newsletter about 3 weeks ago explaining why I wouldn't be going to college - but then proceeded to change my mind like 3 more times..sooo now I'm actually giving it a shot for at least 2 weeks (until the tuition is actually due .. hahah) - I'm calling it a 2 week college experiment. Before going, I'm thinking of the pros of university as this: - structure for those who need it...and a decent bridge from HS to the real world - constantly surrounded by people your age (i.e a pretty good network, social benefits, etc.) - you fit in, and with a degree you have an increased level of credibility to most companies (as well as the rest of society as a so-called “educated person”) - 4 year party...🤷🏼‍♂️ And the cons: - outdated learning model that's based on extrinsic motivators and gradually suppresses independent thinking, creativity, etc. (which you can feel free to argue down below .. especially if you've already gone) - limited freedom to take full control of your learning, seek job opportunities, travel, etc. (aka the stuff I did in my gap year). In other words, you aren't just paying for classes but also THE OPPORTUNITY COST associated with the fact that you could've gained an industry relevant internship that makes minimum wage but still puts you up at a NET POSITIVE of $35+ an hour. - pretty expensive tuition (although I'm pretty lucky to have Canadian tuition) compared to nearly any online program...or the countless free internet gems w/ YouTube, twitter, etc. So put differently, I'll use a metaphor: - College is like the highway that's supposed to get you from one state to another... Basically everyone takes it and it's known as the "reliable route" but if you're not careful, you might get hit by a big ol traffic jam and question why you didn't go..say...off-roading. Highways also often have fat fee$.

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Massimo Maimeri
Owen Sheasby
Anessa Ryce
Shivam Jha
Andrew Poli
New comment 26d ago
  • 1 like • Sep 3

    @Jack Mielke I think you're exactly right (about the first step part). And I don't think that's an irrational fear - I think you're thinking critically about it. It's a legitimate concern, and I would be more concerned over someone who jumps in without considering all of the risks, possibilities, outcomes, etc. It's like hitting the advanced trail without bringing any equipment. It's great to be confident in your ability to maneuver a tricky path, but what if you do get stuck? You should be prepared. And it sounds like that's what you're in the process of doing. Also, yeah, when I was first trying to take my car off-roading, I watched YouTube videos on it, and one of the first things they say is to NOT go alone (in case something goes wrong). So, community/passengers/co-drivers = definitely important. Good luck with your classes!!! :) I miss being the annoying student who got there 10 minutes early and sat in the front row, giving the side-eye to students who came in late, with an iced coffee in hand haha

  • 1 like • 30d

    @Jack Mielke Hahahah wow! 😒..😂

The title of the video will be something along the lines of: 'Here's what Carnivores and Vegans agree on.' Which do you prefer 1, 2, 3 or 4? Is 1 clearer or is there too much going on? I think if the title includes carnivores and vegans then the emojis may be unnecessary. EDIT: 2 new ones. Any other suggestions? Be brutal I can take it

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Andrew Kirby
Owen Sheasby
Jamie Barclay
Tatana Siweya
Hannah Weaver
New comment 28d ago
  • 1 like • Sep 5

    I'm a little late. But, personally, I like the last 2. They're clear, attention-grabbing, and colorful. The "eat this" behind the people may be better in front, or elsewhere. But the meat and vegetable backgrounds make it very clear what's being compared. I don't know who the people are, and I could still infer what it was about.

You guys loved the last season of free mastermind calls, so we're bringing them back. These calls are a place for Synthesizers of all skill levels to come together and make magic happen. They're great for accountability, connecting with other Synthesizers, and brainstorming how to grow. - You can find call times in the Calendar. - @Wiktor Romanowicz will be hosting again. I will not be present. This is a place for you guys to meet, not for me to get involved. - Only available for members Level 3 or above. To give us a rough indication of interest, please comment "Attending" if you're planning on coming to one of these calls.

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Benedek Santa
Cotton Sam
Marvin Gramkow
Owen Sheasby
Jasper de Muynck
New comment 29d ago
  • 2 likes • Aug 28

    How long do these usually last? Or would it be not great to join late..? Turns out I won't get home until 1am (2 hours after it starts lol) due to a job. But I would join late if that's an option. If not, I'll just wait until next week :)

  • 0 likes • Aug 28

    @Raphael Mayr aw, okay, thanks for letting me know! I'm still not home, so yeah I definitely missed it haha

Hey, just wanted to share a milestone in this community. I've completed my first ytube video. In my channel, I'll be telling stories about humans overcoming suffering. It'll hopefully educate people about politics/society while also leaving them with wisdom. I haven't posted here before but I've been quietly watching and soaking up advice. Also, thank you Andrew for the Spotify playlists -- they are killer! I'm currently a journo in the UK but I want to do YouTube as a hobby, and just see where it takes me. Much appreciation for Andrew and this community. Andrew has been one of my main inspirations alongside people like Nathaniel Drew and Johnny Harris.

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Corey Bennett Boardman
Claudia Bernal
Acacia Hernandez
Massimo Maimeri
Owen Sheasby
New comment Sep 5
  • 0 likes • Sep 3

    Nice job on the video! Editing was great, too. :) Hope to see more.

Today is my birthday and I asked my community members on Telegram channel to donate me money which later will be used for advertising of the very channel. It’s 11:44, so far I made 40 dollars. Nexts step is 10’000 community members. So far it’s 668

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Cotton Sam
Fedor Shatukho
Callum Rylance
Corey Bennett Boardman
Anessa Ryce
New comment Sep 3
  • 1 like • Sep 3

    @Andrew Kirby Hahaha why is this not a popular meme

I'm reading a book called "12 Rules for Life," by Jordan Peterson, and there was a paragraph that really stood out: "Why refuse to specify? Because while you are failing to define success (and thereby rendering it impossible) you are also refusing to define failure, to yourself, so that if and when you fail you won't notice, and it won't hurt. But that won't work! You cannot be fooled so easily - unless you have gone very far down the road! You will instead carry with you a continual sense of disappointment in your own Being and the self-contempt that comes along with that..." I felt called out; and that's exactly what I needed. About a month ago, I wrote a list of promises to myself, and there was one that - instead of saying "I promise to do _____" - said, "I promise to try to _____" because I knew I wouldn't do it and didn't want to feel disappointed in myself. So, I guess I need some accountability :') Some things I'm going to do today: - Clean my apartment (lol... it's not that messy, but I think better and am more productive in a totally clean/clutter-free space) - Record myself painting - even if I don't post it or have anything valuable to say. - Text back 1 of 201838 people I've been avoiding (seems small but it'll be the hardest thing I do this month, and I don't even wanna include it in the list) - Define & refine boundaries/availability for work That said, I haven't recorded myself painting while talking about ______ yet. But I did summarize/synthesize another Huberman podcast called "How to Focus to Change Your Brain," and will be sharing it later (today?) once I finish/edit/SHORTEN (ffs, Anessa) it. Also, not related to synthesizing stuff (so, sorry if I shouldn't share this here), but I've been uploading 1 singing video per day, for the past week, and I'm finally getting comfortable with it. I still only have like 37 followers. But, 2 days ago, I had like 27. And I got some really sweet comments & 70+ likes in a day :) I'm not doing it for the likes/comments, but I do have a goal of singing with Alec Benjamin hahaha, so it does help. Also, it's proof that consistency and... there's this word I'm thinking of; it means quantity/mass/amount. Oh, my gosh, this is gonna kill me. In essence, more = good.

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okay guys, I just want to share this win, I was always struggling with procrastination when it came to uploading content, the 2 hardest things for me is scripting and recording, and today I woke up around 8:30 am and I realized I have nothing to do, and that I should record some videos I told myself that I will wait a little bit till my brother wakes up because I don't wanted to be loud till someone is sleeping, but after he waked up, I realized, that I just don't feel like to record today so I used a trick: for me recording a podcast episode is effortless, I just press record and speak what comes to my mind, I don't really do it for views but rather for something cooler: I use it to build momentum, if at the start of my day I already have a podcast recorded and uploaded and a newsletter written from the summary of it, I already had a huge win at the start of my day this thing is so small, easy, and enjoyable that I never say that I don't want to do it, and rather I look forward to talking about a topic, I never retake a podcast, I just speak what comes to my mind its the perfect brain dump and content creation exercise after I finished this, and I made my first content of the day, I thought about it, and realized, that I should just record the shorts I planned to record today I recorded 7 shorts that I scripted yesterday and freestyled one after it, I realized, that I already warmed up for creating content, and everything is set up, so I could record the testimonial video that I was procrastinating on and after I recorded that, I had soo much energy that I finished the video I was putting off for the last 3 weeks soo quick hack if you don't feel like creating content: create something small and effortless, that will help with momentum

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Siebren de Vos
Andrew Kirby
Deepak M
Jeff Harrison
Shubham Yadav
New comment Aug 29
  • 2 likes • Aug 25

    That's amazing; keep it up! Also, that's really interesting how you mentioned waiting until your brother was awake (so as not to disrupt his sleep) and then, once he was awake, realizing you just didn't want to make a video. I was just talking to my mom about conditions we sometimes set in order to delay something. Oftentimes - but not always - the conditions are really just dressed-up excuses. Not sure if that's the case for you, but it reminded me of that since you mentioned them together :)

Sales is tough. But as Naval says, "Learn to sell. Learn to build. If you can do both, you will be unstoppable." So I read some books to upskill myself. And today, I published a short article about "Never Split the Difference" by former FBI negotiator Chris Voss. 3 people have already reached out to say they loved it. (which is 3 more than usual) So I thought the Synthesizers might like it too. Hope you enjoy it: https://cswidmaier.substack.com/p/never-split-the-difference-pt-1

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Samuel Justus
Connor Widmaier
Mathanesh T
Corey Bennett Boardman
Deepak M
New comment Aug 28
  • 2 likes • Aug 26

    You hope we enjoy it?

  • 2 likes • Aug 26

    In all seriousness, it was enjoyable to read, and congrats on the 3 people reaching out to you! Positive feedback is always rewarding :)

Here’s this poem that I rediscovered recently. I think it has a great message Slow Dance By David Weatherford Have you ever watched kids On a merry-go-round? Or listened to the rain Slapping the ground? Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight? Or gazed at the sun into the fading night? You better slow down Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. Do you run through each day On the fly? When you ask: How are you? Do you hear the reply? When the day is done, Do you lie in your bed With the next hundred chores Running through your head? You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. Ever told your child, We’ll do it tomorrow? And in your haste, Not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch, Let a good friendship die Cause you never had time To call and say, “Hi”? You’d better slow down Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. When you run so fast to get somewhere You miss half the fun of getting there. When you worry and hurry through the day, It is like an unopened gift thrown away. Life is not a race. Do take it slower. Hear the music Before the song is over.

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Philipp Bergher
Owen Sheasby
Anessa Ryce
Mathanesh T
New comment Aug 28
  • 3 likes • Aug 22

    Wow. This is beautiful with a bittersweet delivery. Reminds me of the people in San Francisco - especially the train-commuters. No one really looks out the windows to admire the unique top-views of buildings and trees. Or to notice the cars on adjacent freeways. Cars with an acceleration great enough to pass the train but slow enough to get a glimpse into their lives, to look at their faces... Actually, maybe that's creepy. Maybe I shouldn't look into people's cars when I'm on the train. Either way, I love the sentiment of the poem :) I'm glad you shared it.

"The single most important practice in Stoic philosophy is differentiating between what we can change and what we can’t. What we have influence over and what we do not." I read that yesterday⬆️ But my last five years in my life I made the worst choices in my life that is affecting me now I was addicted to social media and other instant gratication things that left me with bad mental health, bad social life, overweight and I feel like I have no willpower And i can't overcome the thought that I wasted my life I know I ca'nt change the past or my choices but I can't overcome that too Iam doing my best to do better now but I feel like something is holding me back and I think it is me and my mind. Sorry for any grammer mistakes not my first language

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Corey Bennett Boardman
Acacia Hernandez
Mathanesh T
Fedor Shatukho
Owen Sheasby
New comment Aug 28
  • 2 likes • Aug 27

    The fact that you’ve acknowledged your poor decisions in the past is already an indication that you haven’t wasted your life. Did you waste part of it? Maybe – according to the standards you now have for yourself. But there’s a quote by Jordan Peterson that goes, “Experience is the best teacher, and the worst experiences teach the best lessons.” – So, it may seem like a waste right now, but I think that with time, effort, and intentional self-work, you’ll come to see it from a different perspective. I used to feel that way about my past relationships. It can be incredibly uncomfortable to think about the years I spent with the wrong people (i.e., people who were wrong for me, or people I was wrong for). Conditions I subjected myself to. Things I allowed to happen. The way I let people treat me. The way I treated people in return. Those years used to feel like a waste – but I realized they’re only a waste if I don’t learn the lessons from them and make better decisions moving forward. Being harshly honest with yourself is, in my opinion, the first step toward self-improvement and change. I think you should use the guilt, or the shame, or the feeling that you lack will-power as a sign that you’re able to differentiate between a sedentary life and a life of meaning. And, over time, as long as you continue to make positive changes and practice healthy habits & behaviors, I have confidence that the feeling that you’ve wasted your life, or that you can’t change the past, will dissipate. It probably won’t be an overnight thing, and it probably won’t be a linear thing – I think it’s also important to remember that, so you don’t get too discouraged after it’s been a day, or a week, or a month, and you still feel like shit about yourself (speaking from experience haha).

If I could go back and give one thing to my 15-year-old self that would probably be this document https://www.evernote.com/shard/s6/client/snv?noteGuid=02dbd6c6-aeb3-4dcf-885d-4910f834f23e&noteKey=58741a067890490f&sn=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.evernote.com%2Fshard%2Fs6%2Fsh%2F02dbd6c6-aeb3-4dcf-885d-4910f834f23e%2F58741a067890490f&title=Kekich%25E2%2580%2599s%2BCredo

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Acacia Hernandez
Anessa Ryce
Wiktor Romanowicz
Mathanesh T
New comment Aug 27
  • 1 like • Aug 24

    Definitely saving that document to read again, and again after that. Valuable advice and reminders :) Thanks for posting it

Feelings are just temporary and it keeps changing. Success and results require consitency which cannot be achieved by doing what we feel. I think we must do what we are supposed to do , we say we need to do this things, and do it even we feel like depressed. What do you think?

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Owen Sheasby
Sandip Gaire
Ion Usatyi
Anessa Ryce
Andrew Kirby
New comment Aug 24
  • 3 likes • Aug 22

    You're right - success and results definitely require consistency! Like convincing yourself to go to the gym, even when you don't feel like it, because you understand the value in it. Emotions absolutely vary - the intensity, frequency, and type depend on/vary with each person. But I think it's also important to remember that emotions are signals, or indicators, of what's important (i.e., what matters to us). And, like @Owen Sheasby said, sometimes changing beliefs can result in changed emotions. In terms of undesired emotions, sometimes we develop emotions that aren't necessarily warranted or appropriate for the situation, or perhaps the intensity of the emotion is a little (or way) off. Other times, we experience said undesired emotions because there's something deeper that we ought to explore. For myself, practicing honest introspection has helped with discerning between the two. It's important to push, but it's also important to think about why you might be having to push so hard. And, to cite my sources lol - I learned much of that in a class I took: Cognitive Processing & Emotion Regulation!

If you like Jack Butcher's work with Visualize Value, you might like this Chrome Extension: https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/visualize-value/ejblinjidfhnpkjbphoendgjjnhmfoee?hl=en It makes your new tab a philosophical visual. Enjoy!

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Connor Widmaier
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    That's so cool! Definitely gonna use that extension. Thanks for telling us :)

Disclaimer: Sorry, this is incredibly long. That's all :) In an Andrew Huberman podcast featuring Dr. Anna Lembke, called "Understanding & Treating Addiction," there's this notion that life, in this day and age, is difficult/hard/challenging because it can be regarded as "very boring". That, because we're no longer fighting for survival (e.g., hunting for food, building fires, etc.), life can be lackluster. And that, in part, can (not necessarily "will") lead to the desire for constant stimulation, pleasure, excitement, and so on - which, without regulation, can lead to addictions. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that's associated with reward/pleasure, and each person has a baseline level. When the release of dopamine creates a shift from the baseline level, we either experience pleasure (above baseline) or pain (below baseline). There's so much more to say about it, but I'm gonna leave it there because I feel like that's all that's necessary to know (for now) to understand what I'm getting at. Also: There is literally so much information in Huberman podcasts, so I'm trying to find the balance between giving enough information so that the points can come together cohesively, comprehensively, and concisely... but not so much that it bores/confuses people. I know a lot of people, especially young people, sometimes use social media to distract themselves (myself included). The thing about most content on the internet is that it's grabbing for attention. We see it in thumbnails, titles, crazy editing, etc. This inherently means it has to be new, exciting, sometimes shocking, for people to attend. And I'm not saying that social media is bad, that exciting content is bad - I adamantly disagree with that! I just mean it's all mixed together and we don't get to decide what someone else puts on the platform. I remember hearing in a university lecture, "We live in an attention economy." Which is another thing in and of itself - won't get into it now. But it's true. Attention is such a valuable currency, but we don't always esteem it as such.

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Owen Sheasby
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    @Owen Sheasby Solid advice, thank you! I actually really like the idea of there being a relationship between the art created and the... for lack of better words, piece of information being incorporated. I did something similar a while back. I made two paintings - one canvas has a hand reaching for flowers, the other is grasping weeds. The inspiration came from Dan Ariely's book "Predictably Irrational" where he talks about loss aversion, and how this aversion to loss (or, at least, perceived loss) causes us to act irrationally and prevents us from endeavoring to achieve or reach something better.

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    @Acacia Hernandez Thanks for the encouragement and the recommendations! I'm gonna try that - starting and then improving. I definitely overthink things, sometimes. I know I'm an adult and probably shouldn't have to do this (to get started), but sometimes I listen to music, and I become absentminded and distracted enough to start myself on a mundane task. Embarrassing but, hey, it works. :) Also, that's great you've let go of entertainment & social media. I just recently deleted Instagram off of my phone because I was too often using it as a distraction, or to procrastinate, or simply because I was bored. It's scarily addictive, and I'm less anxious when I'm not on it.

I'm currently building my blog's website and struggling with some decisions regarding the functionality. I would really love for my readers to be able to log into the website via their existing social media accounts (for the least possible resistance) so they can save their favourite blog posts and make some personal notes to get the highest value possible for themselves. The problem is I underestimated how complicated it is to implement this feature....so my question is: Do you think it is even necessary? Would you as a visitor appreciate such a feature and use it? I've seen lots of other successful blogs that don't have this, but I reckon that's what makes it special in comparison to others out there.

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Benedek Santa
Anessa Ryce
Philipp Bergher
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    Necessary? Absolutely not. Would I use it? Absolutely. I'm actually 90% more likely to sign up/sign in with my Google account when that feature is available. Not sure if/how that benefits the site (Owners..? Site owners? Creators? Idk lol), or, in this case, you.

#Creativity comes from what you consume With all the things that I consume I would think that I wouldn`t have trouble being creative. Yet I find myself struggling just with that exact thing. I don`t know if it`s the thing of self-belief or perhaps a lack of practicing creativity.

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Andrew Kirby
Benedek Santa
Mario Kovač
New comment Aug 24
  • 4 likes • Aug 24

    I think everyone's creative in the realm of their true interests and passions, but it can definitely be difficult to channel the inner creative at will, sometimes. I rarely find myself struggling with creativity unless I'm trying to force it, or if someone's watching me (I get nervous and that disrupts my natural thought process). I'd consider myself a naturally creative person (actually, I was frequently called that growing up, and I HATED it), so I may not be able to understand as well, but I might know of some things that could help. If ya don't mind, I'm gonna posit some questions. Disclaimer: I'm not assuming anything about you or your life. They're just questions I'd ask myself if I were, or when I am, struggling with being creative. - Oh, my gosh, wow! Sorry, I just typed a " - " and it made a bullet point, and I was wondering how other people did that haha - Why am I trying to be creative right now? - Am I being sincere in my creativity (that is, concerning the thing I'm trying to be creative with/for/about/??/etc.)? Am I actually passionate about this? - Is something blocking my creativity (e.g., Are there other things I need to get done? Am I distracted because, wow, it's been 4 days and he still hasn't texted back? Am I afraid of messing up? Did I leave the oven on?)? - Am I hesitant because I'm afraid of not getting it right? Personally, my answer to this question is often "...yes." I'm currently an illustrator for a book (about neuroscience), and it can take me a really long time to get started on a sketch because I'm worried it won't look the way it does in my head. Spoiler: It usually doesn't! But sometimes, it's better. And I can't fix it unless I make it ugly. I can't make it ugly unless I start. And, sometimes, I can't start until I know why I can't start. I think @Corey Bennett Boardman 's suggestions/questions are great. In addition to that, something that helps me facilitate creativity is listening to music. I think the effect music has on our thoughts, attitudes, demeanors, etc. isn't talked about enough. It's nice to listen to music that matches our moods, but it's also a great tool for influencing our moods.

I'm sure every one of you knows what I am talking about. The voice inside your scull that tells you, sometimes louder sometimes quieter, that you don't know enough. That all you do is pretend to be wise enough to be able to add value to people's lives. How audacious it is of you to think to be in a position to educate others, who may be way older and may have a lot more experience in life than you. At this point, I am quite self-confident in what I do and most of the time I can keep the devil inside the small cage I built for him. But every now and then he figures out how to get the key and roams free inside my mind until I manage to put him back in his place. What are your experiences with your personal little daemons? Would love to start a discussion about this!

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Corey Bennett Boardman
Andrew Kirby
Philipp Bergher
Fedor Shatukho
New comment Aug 24
  • 1 like • Aug 23

    @Corey Bennett Boardman There's this song called "Demons" by DROELOE, and I was immediately reminded of it while reading both the post and your comment. I don't know that there's necessarily any value in the song, but it came to mind. And, I will say, it does shed a new/different light on our mental demons... while also being a catchy song (at least, in my opinion haha).

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    @Corey Bennett Boardman What a fascinating article; makes it all make sense!

Hello, my name is Anessa, and I'm new here. I'm really glad that Andrew has a pinned post w/introduction instructions because I definitely would not have posted, otherwise. I can be pretty wordy; so, thanks for reading my many my thoughts & tangents. The type of content I most love: Mmm... non-fiction books, podcasts, songs, or videos that inspire self-reflection, betterment (of self), pensive moments, and/or action. The problem(s) I'm currently working on: 1. Organizing my days to be maximally productive without burning myself out. 2. Narrowing my interests/endeavors(!!!!!). This one's HUGE for me. I want to do everything, see everything, be everything, learn everything. I'm so fascinated by the world, its complexity, unknowns, nuances, mundanity, everything. 3. Not being so indecisive. Analysis paralysis. Buridan's ass. This one's intrinsically related to problem number 2. I want to create & share videos of myself creating art (I draw, paint, & do photography), but I can't decide on the format. 4. Overcoming performance anxiety. I love to sing, and I've recently started uploading videos of myself singing (to TikTok, as much as I dislike the platform... I upload, respond to comments, and promptly delete the app because I hate even having it on my phone). My goal is to sing with Alec Benjamin someday, so the fact that I get a little shy when I'm recording myself singing (even if I'm totally alone) may not be a good sign haha If anyone has any helpful advice, insight, encouragement, etc., for the above problems, I'd sincerely appreciate hearing/reading it. And, even if not, thanks for taking the time to read through my rambling. Also! I've just started reading every morning for >30 minutes (and listening to 40Hz binaural beats while I do - heard about it from Dr. Andrew Huberman). One of the chapters emphasizes the importance of being honest - with those you encounter and, almost especially, yourself. Part of the reason I'm starting over is because I avoided being honest with myself regarding what I'm truly passionate about, what I ultimately want out of life, and a lot of other things that are unrelated to this group haha. I have a college degree, I completed my pre-med courses, I worked in several industries, I started learning to code (still am, actually), changed my mind fifty times in between each of the aforementioned things, and here I am - starting over. If I had listened to my intuition, I would have saved a lot of time, energy, and heartache. But I can't change yesterday, so I'll use my hindsight for today, and for tomorrow.

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Owen Sheasby
Andrew Kirby
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    @Owen Sheasby a fellow Huberman listener! That's absolutely true; I really gotta start applying some of this stuff. I'm gonna try that strategy! I do tend to imagine worst case scenarios, but it's more of a bad habit caused by anxiety that produces...well, more anxiety. Working on it. And, thank you for the encouragement! I won't give up, and I'll record/upload until it's comfortable. Also, that song reference is great! Hahah thanks for your comment :)

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    @Andrew Kirby I think you're spot on - I really do love writing! It's therapeutic to write (i.e., to Document) and often provides insight I wouldn't have seen, recognized, or remembered, had it remained inside my head. I just read "Document, Don't Create" and wow. That definitely resonates with me. I actually have a Word Doc, 38 pages long, full of thoughts, rambling, ideas, mental conflictions, reasoning, etc.! Conversely, when I try to write/create something considered well-written, or eloquent, I find the only thing I'm able to create is writer's block.

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In love with learning, growing, thinking, and the beauty in the mundane. https://medium.com/@anessaryce

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