Guys this is what community and having a circle of high calibre men is for. This share from @Scott Mathiowetz on @Daniel Edge post was outstanding. Sharing his experience, his actions and outcomes. No force, no judgement just solid passing of wisdom. And since then I’ve seen many of you @Alec Liebhardt @David Quinones offer your insights as well in similar depth and courage. Well done gents ✊🏾 #wearegroundedmen

Well cold showers are definitely something. How long do you strive to stay in the shower to “master this”? Also my wife and I hardly ever fight, I fact I can’t even really remember the last time we fought, so I switched the conflict module to with my kids. Of course it didn’t take very long for them to get in an argument. Nevertheless, “Stop, let’s take a break to calm down and take a few minutes to breathe” sounds a lot better when I said it sternly, but slow and calm, vs how I always used to say it which was basically yelling over my kids so they would listen to me. Calm, cool, controlled composure does go along way.

We have three kids, and we homeschool our kids. My wife does most of the teaching, but my oldest son has gotten to the point in math where my wife is not confident in teaching him the lessons. Anyway his curriculum this year has a video that goes over each lesson in depth, then he has homework he has to do. The problem is my son likes to jump ahead, and do any problems he knows how to do, and then gets frustrated when he gets to problems he doesn't know. I was helping him with the problems he couldn't figure out the other night, and it became obvious my son just had not watched the lessons. This was probably the 4th time in the last month this had happened. So my son is upset, it's late, so he's already tired from a full day, and basketball practice, and sitting late at night trying to do math he doesn't like, and then I'm seeing again, for the 4th time in a month that he just chose not to watch the videos, and now is blaming other people that it's too hard for him. Nevertheless I lost my cool with the absurdness of it all. I couldn't understand why my son would be frustrated with not knowing how to do math when he... didn't watch the lesson teaching him how to do math. We made a deal that from now on, he needs to watch the entire lesson, and do the example problems with the recorded teacher, and do the practice problems, before he asks me for help. I reiterated I will help, but I won't just sit here and teach the lesson to him when he could have easily watched the lesson and learned the concepts, the way the class itself is designed to do. I do wish I would have handled it more calmly. I didn't yell, but he could tell I was upset. If I could go back, I would have removed myself from the room for a few minutes, probably just to the restroom, and done some breathwork, to make sure I kept my cool the entire time.

I've not told my partner about the GMM, until tonight. They confronted me about an alarm they saw an alarm that I had labelled "Appearing to be Good" an activity I was doing from NMMNG. I tried to explain what the course was and why I was doing it. My partner just saw it as another way of trying to change myself, another endeavour to be perfect. They said why can't I see that trying to change is changing the person they love. We ended it on we aren't going to agree that I do this course, but I can do what I want. They said I'm looking at it like a problem to fix and I need to just let stuff go. It's like I have everything I want to tell them about why I'm doing it, what I feel it wrong with me, why I want to change and then they make points that I agree with and I just lose all direction of where I want to take the conversation I'm lost lads, I've got everything I want right in front of me and I feel like I'm pushing it away and I don't know how to stop it.

I forgot to ask, regarding the baseline exhale test, is there an idea number of seconds we should be striving to get to? I did it a few times over the last few days and consistently exhale around 10 seconds. Not sure if that’s good or terrible?